EP: 004 | How To Get Your Kids To Talk To You | Lisa Nichols

What do you do when the child you love is depressed, anxious, or silent, —and nothing you do seems to help?

In this episode of The Bad Mom Podcast, I sat down with my dear friend Lisa Nichols, —a world-renowned speaker, author, and mother, —for one of the most healing conversations I’ve ever had.

Lisa has lived through the moments no parent is prepared for: not having money for diapers, navigating her partner’s imprisonment, watching her son’s depression deepen while the world applauded her success.

She shared, “You’re only as happy as your saddest child, —and there were times I felt like I couldn’t make mine happy.”

But Lisa doesn’t leave us in the pain.

🌱 Key Takeaways

  • Mindset Reminder: Our kids don’t need perfection, —they need presence, emotional safety, and radical love.

  • Boundaries: Separating your identity from your children’s —and letting them step out from our shadows.

  • Healthy Habits: Giving kids the freedom to fail builds resilience stronger than perfection.

  • How To Talk With Your Kids: Decide on a gateway line with your kids so they find confidence in communicating and trust you when they do.

  • What Parents Can Do: Create safe spaces with no judgment, no repercussions, and unconditional love transforms relationships.

Time Stamps

  • [00:00:00] Vivian introduces Lisa and opens up about her own struggles with her son’s depression and anxiety.

  • [00:02:00] Have You Ever Felt Like a Bad Mom? Lisa shares raw stories of poverty, her partner’s imprisonment, and her son’s depression, times when she felt powerless and judged.

  • [00:04:00]  The paradox of being celebrated publicly while privately feeling like you’re failing your child.

  • [00:06:00] Lisa’s battle with suicidal thoughts as a teen and the promise she made that birthed Motivating the Teen Spirit.

  • [00:09:00] The story of Tamil, a suicidal high-achieving teen, who found safety and transformation through emotional intelligence training.

  • [00:12:00]  Why kids don’t answer when parents say, “What were you thinking?”, and how safe spaces shift everything.

  • [00:17:00] Lisa’s philosophy: let kids fall, but teach them to get back up every single time.

  • [00:20:00] No Judgment, No Repercussions, Unconditional Love.

  • How creating safe agreements at home builds trust and opens communication.

  • [00:24:00]  The powerful lesson Lisa learned about her success casting a big shadow over her son and the freedom he needed to find himself.

  • [00:29:00]  Vivian and Lisa reflect on learning to parent parallel to their kids, not over them, and why self-care is key to their children’s growth.

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