⏰ Time Stamps

• [00:00:00] Vivian opens the conversation with Cy Wakeman on what it means to “feel like a bad mom.”
  
  

• [00:03:00] Cy introduces her “secondary report card”—measuring parenting through presence and love instead of achievements.
  
  

• [00:07:00] The ego trap: how fear, story, and self-judgment create anxiety in parents and kids.
  
  

• [00:11:00] Why we must skill ourselves up before we can help our children become more skillful.
  
  

• [00:14:00] The two key parental roles: Love your kids up, then call them up to greatness.
  
  

• [00:17:00] The “check yourself before you wreck yourself” rule—how to calm your nervous system before parenting through emotion.
  
  

• [00:22:00] Clean thinking: separating facts from stories, and co-regulating instead of reacting.
  
  

• [00:27:00] How ego-driven parenting turns into enabling—and how to stop labeling “lunch money” as “drug money.”
  
  

• [00:33:00] The three steps of The Call to Greatness: Clean up your thinking → Find your point of impact → Take the next right action.
  

• [00:39:00] Co-creating instead of controlling: teaching kids to self-regulate, from messy rooms to emotional breakdowns.
  
  

• [00:45:00] Parenting without abandonment—how to hold boundaries and stay present with love.
  
  

• [00:49:00] Cy’s final reminder: your child doesn’t need perfection—they need your calm, regulated nervous system.